Sorry I can't provide more of the tasty emails. There were a few weeks of off-the-market recharging, then some isolated dates where responses came either on the spot or in IMs.
An example of the latter came about two weeks after a casual "my gang and I will be at this bar to see another friend perform -- come on out" first meet with someone I had really amusing and clever (to be clear: I mean on her part) chats with online. So I went out to the bar and had a good time meeting her friends, learning about all their art projects, even getting a few isolated minutes here and there to talk w/ her. Well, shout. It was loud in there. Didn't feel like a date, but was tons of fun.
After she got back from a road trip, I saw she was online, and asked her how she was, and suggested we catch up sometime. She wrote back, "Remember what we were saying about girls who said they wanted to be friends?" Uhhhm. "I don't want to waste your time, but I didn't feel that kind of connection."
All fair enough, and I told her -- honestly -- that I appreciated the forthrightness and full disclosure. And I didn't feel quite a part of her posse, though I'd like to get more inspired to do things like public art projects based on discarded hardware. And I didn't feel that kind of connection either. Or that it had really been a date.
But still, she's cool and smart and funny, and there are too few of those people. Regardless of the Lurve Connection or lack thereof, it'd be nice to have her as a person I could say hey to on occasion, go see what they're doing. And maybe I'm being an old softie, but after interacting to even that degree with a nice/cool/interesting person, I do feel some attachment, concern for that person. So it's sad to see that discarded.
Or maybe I'm being far too sensitive and self-pitying. This isn't rejection. What do you think? Been in a similar situation?
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